Nerve Wrecks

What makes you nervous?

Nervousness can be such a subjective experience, and for people who suffer pathological extremes of nervousness by way of anxiety disorders or panic attacks, it can be triggered by almost anything and nothing.

Except in very few instances, there’s barely a good enough reason to adopt nervousness as a coping strategy because que sera sera! Sadly, people at extremes of the spectrum for nervousness often oscillate between nervousness and helplessness; both of these being problematic stances.

The number one cause of nervousness is when we sense that there’s something in the immediate or near future that we will not be able to handle on our own and there will be no one to turn to for help. Oftentimes, we develop this kind of mindset when money is involved. Most adults admit to money worries as an outstanding source of nervousness.

Having lived the life of being faced with uncertainties for the past few years as a new immigrant in America, I have eventually learned to overcome those nervousness evoking situations.

I can most certainly say that most of the things that I have worried about since I became an immigrant have not come to pass. Indeed, there have been struggles that have made the future look impossible, but those situations have built my tolerance for rejection, improved my shock absorption skills, taught me how to remain calm in the face of a raging storm, and built my confidence in my ability to make it through any difficult situation with or without help.

My takeaway is that the mind is a master of mirages. While it belongs to its owner, it tries to own its owner or act like an untamed dog and allows itself to be hijacked by other people and events.

So, before you trust the content of your mind and allow it to throw you into nervous fits, you must examine them. The more you learn to sift and sort through your thoughts in a fast way, the more you overcome the mental irresponsibility that nervousness bordering on helplessness can sometimes be.